So, I’ve been reading Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown, and ran across these quotes that should engage your brains, patrons
On the idea that perfectionism is a positive thing:
Perfectionism is not self-improvement. Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval. Most perfectionists grew up being praised for achievement and performance (grades, manners, rule following, people pleasing, appearance, sports). Somewhere along the way, they adopted this dangerous and debilitating belief system: ‘I am what I accomplish and how well I accomplish it. Please. Perform. Perfect.’
On the idea that what you have leftover after you tried perfection, all that isn’t perfect and doesn’t fit can be called “art,” which is an antidote of sorts to perfectionism:
I think the dilemma exists because art, among all the other tidy categories, most closely resembles what it is like to be human. To be alive. It is our nature to be imperfect. To have uncategorized feelings and emotions. To make or do things that don’t sometimes necessarily make sense.
Art is all just perfectly imperfect.
Once the word art enters the description of what you’re up to, it is almost like getting a hall pass from perfection.
On staying busy, which, in her view, is a form of numbing/protection:
We are a culture of people who’ve bought into the idea that if we stay busy enough, the truth of our lives won’t catch up with us.
Well, patrons, do you agree/disagree with the idea that perfectionism is NOT self-improvement, but rather a negative?
Do you agree that art is a balance to perfectionism? Why or why not?
What do you make of the idea that we stay busy so truth of our lives won’t catch up with us?
That should keep you busy, kids.