Just browsing the daily miracle that is a newspaper…even if it was mildly soggy this morning.
I’ve had a love/hate thing with mobile phones. My guess is we all do at some level. So convenient. So intrusive. So we’re all trying to find that balance, right?
We’ve seen the statistics that show us that texting & driving (or even talking while driving) is a truly dangerous endeavor. We’ve all been cut-off or had a car swerve into our lane or maybe even had your paid-for van you were hoping to get 50K more miles out of rear-ended by a kid and the insurance company totaled the vehicle which blue-booked below reliable replacement transportation so we got an unexpected new monthly payment about three years premature. Not that I’m bitter or anything. Yet, we all have our moments of texting/talking while driving, right? I mean, we’re better at it than the other folks, no?
We’ve seen the studies that show how high-schoolers and college kids aren’t hitting REM sleep because they get texts late at night and the buzzing and such wakes them up with such frequency that some scientists believe that their brain development is hindered somewhat. But yet, we slack off a bit on the enforcement of that with our kids from the initial diligence of having them all charge in the kitchen downstairs.
We read the accounts of some business man who demands that everybody put their phones face down at the meal in front of their plates. If no one responds to a text or call during said meal, the boss picks up the tab for the business lunch. Otherwise, the first person to pick up their phone to check the time or respond to a text or call, well, their “fine” is they have to pay for it. But we all seem to remind those we are socializing or doing business with that we “have to stay available for the kids” or “are awaiting an important call” or check social media sites right there when we’re socializing with others.
We watch TV shows with our family and everybody’s multi-tasking.
We keep checking work e-mail when we are “off the clock” because, well, that inbox is going to be full when I get into the office next so if I just knock out a few right now I can just check it off the box now instead of later.
We see the celebrities who demand that no guests can bring their mobile phones to the wedding to keep their photos licensed to the photographers hired because they’re getting paid by some magazine for exclusive photos. Which is where I want to pick up the story The ‘I Dos,’ Unplugged in today’s New York Times.
In this article, we see that Michael Jordan (yes, that Michael Jordan) had sent out notices beforehand that mobile phones would be placed in a separate room upon arrival (yes, you could go in and check yours at any time, but only in that area) and had folks enforcing that at the door. His reason:
But he did want guests to be present during his ceremony, which he and his fiancé had made explicit in advance. “A wedding is about having people paying witness,” Michael later told me. “How can they do that if they don’t even hear your vows because they’re too busy taking pictures?
He has a point, no?
Also in this article we catch:
* A rabbi who has the couple turn and face the audience during the wedding ceremony for a brief photo op for those assembled, then asks everyone to put them away for the remainder of the time.
* Brides being seen by their groom prematurely because bridesmaids posted photos they took of the bride in her dress pre-ceremony.
* Unflattering photos of friends & family at the weddings posted on social media.
* Drunk pics and the like.
And the solution to this is the idea of an “unplugged wedding.” Where the entirety of the proceedings goes on unrecorded by the masses…and folks just enjoy the time and let the pros handle the video/photography stuff & wait for the bride & groom to post (or not) on social media.
What I started wondering about was what other areas of life to we need to “unplug?”
Also, is this a “middle-age man” kind of question? You know, where the younger generation is so in-tune with and used to every moment being potentially recorded that it’s no big deal and just part of life as they know it.
So, have at answering those questions, patrons!